Carmen is still hashing out a custody agreement with the man she says raped her when she was sedated.
We’ve been inundated with the stories — personal, frank, harrowing — of sexual assault survivors since publishing this story about how difficult it is to get justice for rape.
Among the people we spoke with were survivors who wanted to go public with the abuse they suffered and the way they feel Canada’s court system failed them, and wanted to put their names to their stories.
But because of rules imposed by the same court system that in so many cases fails the victims of sexual violence, we believe their names remain under publication ban – ostensibly for their own protection – long after cases are closed or alleged abusers no longer living.
We wish we could honour the wishes of these individuals to be named. Out of an abundance of caution, we have not.
Aruna Papp had lived in Canada for a dozen years, had taken courses at York University while working as a short-order cook there, had started organizations to help immigrant women escape violence. But she couldn’t bring herself to leave a spouse who made her life “hell.”
The fear ran too deep.
Tuesday, Aug. 9, 2011 – Globe and Mail
ANNA MEHLER PAPERNY
After the ceremony, family and friends crowded into the Shahdady family’s Scarborough house, prayed and struggled to talk about anything – anything but the 21-year-old daughter they had just buried in a Pickering cemetery; or her son, the two-year-old who’d spent more than 15 hours in the apartment with her body; or the husband her father had chosen, now charged with killing her.
Abdul Malik Rustam, who she’d sponsored to join her in Canada just months earlier, faces a first-degree murder charge. He appeared briefly by via video feed in a Scarborough courtroom Monday, speaking with counsel through an Urdu translator. He was clean-shaven but for a small moustache and wearing a loose-fitting orange jumpsuit. He’s to appear again Tuesday.
Shaher Bano Shahdady’s death – in the apartment she’d moved into, having left her husband just weeks earlier – rocked the city’s close-knit Balochi community, an ethnic group from Pakistan’s largest province.
But the problem isn’t that cases like this are shockingly rare. It’s that they aren’t.